The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4

The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4

Drinking alcohol is causing major issues with some individuals in our communities, the individuals involved think that they are having fun while drinking and have an illusion that they are doing well in life, not realizing that they are ruining their futures and resulting in negative impacts on people around them and their families. Not many people realize the Living Hell that is created when you have an alcoholic in the family, everyone around them has to suffer and endure the alcoholic person and it will negatively impact the future of every single person in the house.

Family members living in the presence of an alcoholic will have broken dreams, broken futures and broken homes, they will never excel academically or in sports or in business or any other venture, because there is the presence of negative energies around the individual involved.

Domestic Violence remains ever present in homes that have an alcoholic present and life becomes a ‘living hell’ for everyone living in the house with the entire family bearing the brunt of domestic violence, something else that is never discussed anywhere is that an alcoholic persons smells bad to a non-driking person, imagine what spouses have to endure when their husbands have been drinking and they have to smell him lying next to him in bed and then the morning after. a living nightmare.

A. Love and Gratitude

I am grateful for the Al-Anon fellowship which gave me comfort when I was miserable with an alcoholic partner.

My life was full of chaos, nothing had gone as planned, my expectations, the very basic ones, were unmet and my husband’s drinking continued.

This was nine years back from today. His drinking ruined not only him but damaged me also.

I felt I had failed.The drinking went worse.

Finally we ended up in a rehab where I was told that alcoholism is a disease and I too was affected by living with an active alcoholic.

Al-Anon meetings were suggested to cope with the damages caused by someone else’s drinking.

I started going for Al-Anon meetings.

Something attracted me in those rooms.

I felt I had reached a place of solution for all my dilemmas.

I started getting the truth about the disease of alcoholism and also accepted slowly that there is nothing for me to do to stop his drinking.

These meetings helped me learn that I am not the cause for someone else’s drinking, I cannot control nor can I cure.

Now I could focus on my own characteristics and attitudes which needed improvement.

I gained courage to accept and take responsibility for my own mistakes.After so many years Al-Anon meetings are my still favourite place to be in.

This has given me the clarity to view the issues in true perspective.

Peace and serenity are my companions and gratitude is a way of living now.

It has helped me to discover myself and stay aligned to my purpose in life.

I wish to be in Al-Anon till my last day.It has answers to everything I might need to deal with even in future.

I am thankful for those who have walked this path and carried the message.

B. I gave up drinking. You should too

In August 2013 I woke up terrified in the middle of the night on a couch in Montreal.

A dark room tilted and spun on a lopsided axis. The hard futon on which I’d sprawled earlier in the night threatened to dump me into the abyss between its edge and the coffee table. My mouth tasted foul.

I lurched upright. The universe punished me with a spear of pain from the back of my neck down to my right thigh, stiffening and immobilizing that side of my body.

But danger rumbled in my guts. So I clung to furniture and tried to navigate my friend’s unfamiliar apartment. My hands pawed at the wall then found a doorknob and a light switch. Fluorescent light beat on my retinas. Linoleum tile. I squinted, peered around for the toilet. A rushing noise in my ears grew louder.

And then it was too late.

Discounting some bad choices in high school, I’ve never been a heavy drinker. That day in Montreal was no exception, though it remains the one time that I remember vomiting. It was the end of summer break after my sophomore year of college. I visited a friend in the French-Canadian city, and we made the rounds of a few local breweries. A sip here and there just added up faster than I’d imagined.

For years, this was my go-to “alcohol is freaking poison” anecdote. I’d bet most adult readers have a similar one (or several): That time you drank way too much. These incidents can be funny, and hopefully they’re rare enough not to be a problem in your life. They teach us to drink in moderation. Their lesson is that a couple glasses at a time is a responsible choice, as long as you don’t go overboard.

Years passed before I realized binge drinking wasn’t my real problem with alcohol. The real problem was all the ways it messed up my body and life while I was being careful.

Asked how many alcoholic drinks they’d consumed in the last week, the bottom 60% of Americans reported an average of less than one. The bottom 30% drank none at all.

But the top 40% of Americans imbibed anywhere from two up to many dozens of glasses in just one week. The top 10% averaged a whopping 73.85. (You can read more about those numbers at The Washington Post.)

For five years or so, I drank about two or three drinks in a week — sometimes a bit more, sometimes a lot less. That put me near the 60th percentile. In other words, I drank a bit more than average, but was well within the normal range.

Maybe once a week I’d have a beer in the evening with my roommate after class or work. Another downed at a Tuesday bar-trivia night, and then maybe another if I went out on a weekend.

With just one or two exceptions in half a decade, I never drank more than I intended or woke up feeling ill. So I considered myself a light, responsible drinker, and never connected any health or personal problems to the liquid drug.

Now let me tell you what happened when I stopped drinking.

It happened by accident. I graduated college and moved into an apartment of nondrinkers, ran low on cash and switched to ordering club sodas at bars, and started dating someone who didn’t drink at all. All the little cues that had prompted me to drink drifted away, and months passed before I noticed.

But in the meantime, my life improved. My chronic insomnia became easier to manage. I had more energy, spent less time watching TV and more time reading, writing, and exercising. When I went out (to the same bars and shows) I felt more present and took home better memories of the evenings. And while I sometimes craved beer or liquor, I never missed the experience of drinking.

In short: I became a healthier, happier person without even noticing that I’d given anything up.

Now my body is neither a temple nor a controlled experiment. I can’t prove that giving up alcohol changed my life, and I certainly don’t know that it will change yours. But my experience tracks with the best available science on drinking, which tells us that even in small quantities alcohol can make you less healthy and less happy.

Even though booze can knock you out, alcohol consumption correlates strongly with severe insomnia. And it can lower sleep quality in healthy sleepers as well, making them more tired during the day. Drinking is associated with a higher risk of weight gain and obesity, and it makes you more likely to contract illnesses like hypertension, mouth cancer, pancreatitis, and liver cirrhosis. That’s true whether you’re an alcoholic or a “light drinker.” And alcohol doesn’t just make you more likely to get sick. It measurably increases your risk of dying early for any reason.

There are some (often overhyped) studies that suggest health benefits to small amounts of alcohol consumption. The most notable of these are a series of papers that suggest minor cardiovascular benefits to very small amounts of alcohol, particularly red wine. Let’s set aside for the moment more recent research that casts doubt on those studies’ conclusions. Instead, we’ll focus on this fact: Most regular drinkers far outstrip the small quantities that might offer benefits, and even researchers sympathetic to the idea write that we all need to cool it with the booze.

But maybe you’re a “live fast, die young, enjoy it while you can” type? You should know that even light drinking correlates with unhappiness and life dissatisfaction in college students. And across age groups, people tend to drink when they’re stressed. We can try to shortcut our way to happy lives with booze, but it probably won’t work (except perhaps for those among us who are elderly women, but that’s a topic for another day).

All these ill effects of our favorite toxin add up to enormous, painful problems for individuals, families, and society at large. These are problems we’d clearly be better off without.

That’s not to say quitting is easy. I haven’t been perfect in abstaining from alcohol. After going cold turkey for the last eight months of 2015, I’ve had a few drinks in 2016. And let me tell you: There’s nothing like stripping away your chemical tolerances to reveal how nasty these drinks really are. I’m a reasonably healthy 180+ pound, 24-year-old. But even a small glass of Heineken calls up echoes of that night in Montreal: dizziness, headaches, and a sleepless night.

Because alcohol is poison. And we should all stop putting it in our bodies.

Download full text in multiple languages:
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – English
pdf આલ્કોહોલિઝમની દુષ્ટતા – ભાગ 4 – Gujarati
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Hindi
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Punjabi
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Tamil
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Telugu
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Bengali

Video Clips on Alcoholism

Alcoholic de-addiction, an alternative approach | Dr Abhijit Nadkarni | TEDxPanaji

Decoding Alcoholism (Hindi)

Alcohol Has Overtaken Kerala, India

Alcoholism is a Disease: Dia Mirza at TED

Shocking News about Alcoholism in India

Alcoholics Anonymous Speaker – India

મદ્યપાનની દુષ્ટતા – ભાગ 4 આલ્કોહોલ

પીવાથી આપણા સમુદાયોની કેટલીક વ્યક્તિઓ સાથે મુખ્ય સમસ્યાઓ causingભી થાય છે, સામેલ વ્યક્તિઓ વિચારે છે કે તેઓ પીતી વખતે મજા માણી રહ્યા છે અને તેમને ભ્રમ છે કે તેઓ જીવનમાં સારું કરી રહ્યા છે, તેમને ખ્યાલ નથી કે તેઓ તેમનું બરબાદ કરી રહ્યા છે ભાવિ અને પરિણામે તેમની આસપાસના લોકો અને તેમના પરિવારો પર નકારાત્મક અસર પડે છે. જ્યારે તમે પરિવારમાં આલ્કોહોલિક હોવ ત્યારે સર્જાતા લિવિંગ હેલને ઘણા લોકોને ખ્યાલ હોતો નથી, આજુબાજુના દરેકને આલ્કોહોલિક વ્યક્તિને ભોગવવું પડે છે અને સહન કરવું પડે છે અને તે ઘરના દરેક વ્યક્તિના ભવિષ્ય પર નકારાત્મક અસર કરશે.

આલ્કોહોલિકની હાજરીમાં રહેતા પરિવારના સભ્યોને તૂટેલા સપના, તૂટેલા વાયદા અને તૂટેલા ઘરો હશે, તેઓ ક્યારેય શૈક્ષણિક રીતે અથવા રમતગમતમાં અથવા વ્યવસાયમાં અથવા અન્ય કોઈ સાહસમાં શ્રેષ્ઠ બનશે નહીં, કારણ કે તેમાં સામેલ વ્યક્તિની આસપાસ નકારાત્મક ઉર્જાની હાજરી છે.

ઘરેલુ હિંસા હંમેશા ઘરોમાં હાજર રહે છે જેમાં આલ્કોહોલિક હાજર હોય છે અને ઘરમાં રહેતા દરેક માટે જીવન એક ‘જીવતું નરક’ બની જાય છે, જેમાં સમગ્ર પરિવાર ઘરેલુ હિંસાનો ભોગ બને છે, બીજી કોઈ વસ્તુ જેની ક્યારેય ચર્ચા થતી નથી તે આલ્કોહોલિક વ્યક્તિને ગંધ આવે છે. દારૂ ન પીનાર વ્યક્તિ માટે ખરાબ, કલ્પના કરો કે જ્યારે તેમના પતિ પીતા હોય ત્યારે પતિ-પત્નીએ શું સહન કરવું પડે અને તેમને પથારીમાં અને પછી સવારે તેની બાજુમાં પડેલા ગંધ આવે. એક જીવંત દુmaસ્વપ્ન.

A. પ્રેમ અને કૃતજ્itudeતા

હું અલ-એનોન ફેલોશિપ માટે આભારી છું જેણે જ્યારે હું આલ્કોહોલિક ભાગીદાર સાથે દુiseખી હતો ત્યારે મને દિલાસો આપ્યો.

મારું જીવન અંધાધૂંધીથી ભરેલું હતું, આયોજન મુજબ કશું ચાલ્યું ન હતું, મારી અપેક્ષાઓ, ખૂબ જ મૂળભૂત, અપૂર્ણ હતી અને મારા પતિનું પીવાનું ચાલુ રહ્યું.

આજથી નવ વર્ષ પહેલાની વાત છે. તેના પીવાથી માત્ર તેને જ નહીં પણ મને પણ નુકસાન થયું.

મને લાગ્યું કે હું નિષ્ફળ ગયો હતો પીવાનું ખરાબ થયું.

છેવટે અમે એક પુનર્વસનમાં પહોંચ્યા જ્યાં મને કહેવામાં આવ્યું કે મદ્યપાન એક રોગ છે અને હું પણ સક્રિય આલ્કોહોલિક સાથે રહેવાથી પ્રભાવિત થયો છું.

અલ-એનોન મીટિંગ્સ સૂચવવામાં આવી હતી કે કોઈ બીજાના પીવાથી થતા નુકસાનનો સામનો કરવો.

મેં અલ-એનોન બેઠકો માટે જવાનું શરૂ કર્યું.

તે રૂમમાં કંઈક મને આકર્ષિત કરે છે.

મને લાગ્યું કે હું મારી બધી મૂંઝવણોના સમાધાનના સ્થળે પહોંચી ગયો છું.

મેં મદ્યપાનના રોગ વિશે સત્ય મેળવવાનું શરૂ કર્યું અને ધીરે ધીરે સ્વીકાર્યું કે તેના પીવાનું બંધ કરવા માટે મારે કંઈ કરવું નથી.

આ બેઠકોએ મને એ શીખવામાં મદદ કરી કે હું કોઈ બીજાના પીવાનું કારણ નથી, હું નિયંત્રિત કરી શકતો નથી કે હું ઉપચાર કરી શકતો નથી.

હવે હું મારી પોતાની લાક્ષણિકતાઓ અને વલણ પર ધ્યાન કેન્દ્રિત કરી શકું છું જેને સુધારવાની જરૂર છે.

મેં મારી પોતાની ભૂલો સ્વીકારવા અને જવાબદારી લેવાની હિંમત મેળવી. આટલા વર્ષો પછી અલ-એનોન મીટિંગ્સ એ હજુ પણ મારું મનપસંદ સ્થળ છે.

આનાથી મને મુદ્દાઓને સાચા પરિપ્રેક્ષ્યમાં જોવાની સ્પષ્ટતા મળી છે.

શાંતિ અને નિર્મળતા મારા સાથી છે અને કૃતજ્તા એ હવે જીવવાની રીત છે.

તે મને મારી જાતને શોધવામાં અને જીવનમાં મારા હેતુ સાથે જોડાયેલા રહેવામાં મદદ કરી છે.

હું મારા છેલ્લા દિવસ સુધી અલ-એનોનમાં રહેવાની ઈચ્છા રાખું છું.તેમાં ભવિષ્યમાં પણ મારે જે પણ વ્યવહાર કરવાની જરૂર છે તેના જવાબો છે.

જેઓ આ માર્ગ પર ચાલ્યા છે અને સંદેશ વહન કરે છે તેમના માટે હું આભારી છું.

Download full text in multiple languages:
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – English
pdf આલ્કોહોલિઝમની દુષ્ટતા – ભાગ 4 – Gujarati
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Hindi
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Punjabi
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Tamil
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Telugu
pdf The Evils of Alcoholism – Part 4 – Bengali